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Hot Wings 'N Things

Once a week, my wife visits her mother in another city in the Tampa Bay area. She’s usually gone overnight and returns the afternoon of the next day. Her absence used to set the stage for an indulgence in one of my favorite foods—spicy hot wingslots of them!

I like hot wings. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. In fact, I can have a tail-gating party with myself right in my own living room during one of my favorite team’s football games. (I usually do not invite guests because that cuts down on the wing supply.) But that’s ok . . . I can cheer in stereo and make up for the low tailgater numbers. 

I hope you can detect the over-emphasis on my love for hot wings, but everybody has a weakness, right? After all, aren’t we all entitled to some indulgence to keep our eyes from crossing? Wouldn’t want to end up like that!

Actually, self-indulgence is a killer. (THAT was sure a change of pace!!) True . . . self-indulgence is a killer whose prey includes those whose appetites rule their lives. I’m not just talking about food. Anything that indulges the mind or body fits into the category of lethal choices. We make lots of them because they’re subtle and usually do not carry an immediate consequence. Rather, they offer sensory satisfaction that fuels our drive to indulge and de-sensitize our good judgment.

While my love for hot wings is epic, I also know that I cannot allow myself to let that appetite over-ride my balance in decision-making. (But, you must admit, that’s easier said than done.) Additionally, I am no longer a young man and my body cannot deal with the constant bombardment of spice and lard like it could at a younger age. My body’s metabolism has changed and so must my choices in food. When I was younger, I could eat as much of anything I wanted—and often did. My problem was not drinking or smoking or drug use. It was food—even though I did not consider it a problem until the consequences started emerging.

So, then . . . is the issue to make right choices about things we once took for granted, or must we begin to gain a wider perspective about the choices we make earlier in life? I think “earlier in life” gets the vote. The sooner a person engages in constructive decision-making, the sooner he or she puts to rest the things that tend to cause problems later in life. You can see the consequences of poor choices all around you every day.

My wife had to watch her weight early in our marriage, but I didn’t have a thing to worry about because my metabolism allowed me to pig out on anything I wanted. She began making the right choices then, and today enjoys a svelte and fit figure. Now, I’m the one who has to really watch the caloric count. It could have been easier if I’d started when she did earlier in life. Funny how that rings of poetic justice!

I contend that if a person began to make choices based upon an understanding of the future consequences or benefits of those choices, more decisions would be made that produce a richer, fuller life.

My goal is to grow old with the wife of my youth. To do that, I must continue to make better choices about the appetites I once allowed to rule my life. It’s all a matter of perspective—getting things into the right focus. It’s about making right choices and being able to live with the satisfaction those choices produce.


But, as someone once wisely said, "You cannot become old and wise without first being young and stupid."


I like this conclusion...planning ahead is the key, and follow through on good habits will ultimately save you!


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